I think you have to be honest with yourself about what you want out of a relationship before you start. Do you want to just have sex and have fun? Then do that. Do you want more than that? Then be upfront about the fact that you want to have a long term relationship.

When I met my boyfriend (online dating) I was honest in my profile that I wasn’t looking for a fuck boy but someone to hang out with and do mundane things. I wasn’t into getting drunk or going to parties. I like to stay home, cook, and watch Netflix.

Somehow I matched up with the male version of myself. We laughed at ourselves last night because we were sitting around, eating cake, watching Hulu, and scrolling through Wish.com on our phones on a Saturday night. Big party people here!

But that’s what we like to do. We are both introverted and know when the other needs some space and alone time. I don’t really even have to tell him to back off and give me space, he just knows that I need it.

I don’t know if we ever really had a honeymoon phase. It was pretty much mundane from the beginning but that’s what I was looking for. It’s like we’ve been together our whole lives. We just fit. And I think that’s because I was honest about what I wanted in the first place.

Sorry, that got long!

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Writer and mother. I try to keep it real because I’m not “loving every moment”. Follow me https://twitter.com/3282jessicah or email hillis33@gmail.com

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